“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:29-32
I was having a conversation this week with a friend and I said something. Something I immediately regret, regret to the point that it actually left a foul taste in my mouth. I couldn’t think of why I said it or where it came from, but there it was…ugliness in all its glory. After asking forgiveness for my words, I spent time thinking and praying about my heart and where that was rooted. I asked God to help me be more mindful of my heart and my words. Since then, I have been more aware of what I say and how I say it. Words have so much power.
“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Proverbs 18:21
How many times a day do you find yourself in a situation where it almost seems natural to say something ugly? Whether it’s about a person, place or thing… James really stated it best when he said our tongue is a fire. “In the same way, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it boasts of great things. Consider how small a spark sets a great forest ablaze. The tongue also is a fire, a world of wickedness among the parts of the body. It pollutes the whole person, sets the course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.” James 3:5-6
It has become so commonplace to speak ill of anything, that we don’t even realize we do it anymore. “That person really annoys me”, “I hate the food there it’s terrible”, “their customer service sucks”, seems harmless enough right? Who are we saying it too? Are we making a statement of our dissatisfaction or a direct judgement? In our culture where we hold so much pride in our freedom of speech, have we gone too far toward mainstreaming hatefulness?
Doing life together means we are all in the same boat. We are all supposed to be rowing together in the same direction with the same goal; celebrating God’s Kingdom here on this world and share His love, forgiveness and freedom with as many people as possible. If that’s true then how important is complaining about customer service or restaurant food you dislike?
This scripture from Ephesians states clearly that we are only to speak words which serve to build up the body and give grace to those who hear. We are to put away ALL bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, slander and malice. We are to be kind to one another, tenderhearted, and forgiving as Christ is forgiving.
We have become so consumed with, ‘shooting straight’, ‘being candid’, ‘speaking our mind’, and ‘not holding anything back’, that we have forgotten how to express love, forgiveness, grace and kindness. Did you ever hear Jesus speak an angry word to anyone, call them a name or rebuke them in front of others, No! He came to build up not to tear down.
People are going to be frustrating, we’re not perfect…none of us! We all have good days and bad days and have survived all kinds of experiences. God loves us each equally, with our flaws, where we are. We need to do the same. If we are going to be The Church, we need to behave like it. We need to strive to not speak a word unless it serves to build up the body, edifies people, speaks kindness and shines a light on Jesus, not us.
We are the body, we are Christ’s Church. We are His example to the world, when we are tearing each other down, gossiping, bragging, belittling and being unkind, what kind of example are we setting?
Finding Jesus in everyone, and everything isn’t easy, and there are people out there that are harder to love than others. It doesn’t make them less deserving, less needful or less desirous of our love and kindness. Doing life together means that everyone deserves our best…everyone.
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I want my life to be a biography of who Jesus is.
We are called to be salt and light, to be Jesus to the world, living as He would. We are called to love others as He loved them, to see them as He saw them and to treat them as we would want to be treated. Jesus called and equipped us, through the power of the Holy Spirit to be a reflection of Him.
I sometimes miss that; in my quest to be better, I miss that I’m not just supposed to be better, I’m supposed to reflect Him. Being ‘better’ is a relative concept, better than what, better than who? Being like Jesus is NOT relative it is constant, relevant and real.
Peter tells us that we have been given everything for life and godliness. If that is indeed true, then what am I doing?
His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. 2 Peter 1:3-4
I once compared our relationship with Jesus to that of a writer trying to pen a biography of a famous person. It’s not something you can do without study. Reading everything about them, what they wrote themselves, talking with people who knew them personally, how can you write about someone you don’t have an intimate knowledge of or relationship with? Our relationship with Jesus is the same, so often we go out into the world with a very tertiary knowledge of our Savior and we try to share Him with others and when questioned, on some very basic tenets, we falter because we aren’t firm in our knowledge of and relationship with Him. If we are to reflect Jesus, we need to have a relationship with Him.
I am no longer content to just ‘know’ Jesus. I want my life to be a living testimony to who He is! I don’t want to quote scripture as an ancient text that provides answers but as the living breathing Word of my Father and Savior; Words that grant freedom, Words full of love and mercy, Words that transcend letters on a page, Words that save, heal and loose. Words that penetrate my heart to its deepest core, and drive me to love and action.
I have been given everything that I need for a godly life through my knowledge of Him who called me by His own glory and goodness… EVERYTHING.
Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect. Matthew 5:48
I believe that God has given me what I need to be a perfect reflection of Him.
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect. Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. Romans 12:1-2
I can only imagine what you are thinking, I know what I’d be thinking…I can’t be perfect. Well, if that is what you think, you’re probably right. I chose to believe what my Father in Heaven has told me, He has given me everything I need to be a perfect reflection of His Son. It won’t happen overnight, it will take time. I will continue to get to know Jesus through studying the scriptures, prayer, fellowship, discipleship and worship. I will ask the Holy Spirit to guide my actions and my words, I will ask Jesus to change my heart to be more like His. I will fall, (hopefully forward) I will fail, I will forgive and be forgiven. I will be confident in the knowledge that it is possible for me to be a perfect reflection of Jesus in this world.
I chose to give Him everything I am, I have, I can be, and know that He will continue to show me the person He has always seen me to be.
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